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10 Ways to Become More Resilient

I have realized recently that to live a balanced life, you must be resilient. Why are some people able to bounce back easily from adversity or misfortune while others fall apart?

Developing resiliency is part of achieving a more balanced life. People with resilience have a greater sense of control over their lives. You will have a more optimistic outlook and be willing to take more risks. You will also find more meaning and joy in your life.

Here are 10 ways you can become more resilient and stay on the path to achieving a more balanced life:

Be flexible
Change is a part of living. You may find that certain goals no longer work because your situation or circumstances have changed. The ability to accept what you cannot control will allow you to focus on what you can do. Resilient people find ways to adjust their goals and adapt.

Find your purpose
Do things that bring meaning to your life. If you have a sense of purpose, you can find ways to stay on track and move toward your goals.

Take action
Think about what you can do to improve a situation and then do it. When you’re resilient, you work on solving problems rather than getting caught up in negativity. It’s also easy to simply detach and avoid a challenging situation rather than face it head on. Make a decision and take action to make it happen.

Learn from your mistakes
When you have a negative experience or something doesn’t go the way you expected, you should see it as an opportunity to learn something. Focus on the positive lessons you can take away from a challenging situation.

Take care of yourself
Part of being resilient is staying physically and mentally strong. It’s easier to face adversity when you’re feeling your best. Take care of yourself by exercising regularly, eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep and managing stress.

Maintain a positive outlook
A positive outlook will make you much more resilient. Many of life’s problems are only temporary. Not to mention, that often adversity brings new opportunities. I have often looked back on what I thought was a bad situation only to find that it actually led to something better.

Have a sense of humor
Even in stressful times, it’s important to keep your sense of humor. You need to be able to laugh at yourself and find the humor even when times are tough. Laughing and smiling helps relieves stress and can put things into perspective for you.

Let go of tension
Find your own way to express your emotions and let go of stress. You may find that writing in a journal, meditating or doing creative tasks like sewing, scrapbooking, painting or baking helps you relax. Or, you may discover that physical activity helps you relieve tension, such as running, kickboxing or yoga.

Make connections
Good relationships with family members, friends and others can help you be more resilient. It’s nice to have people who will listen to you and help you with your problems. You also know that you have their support no matter what happens. In addition, you can be there for them when they need your support and guidance.

Believe in yourself
Be confident in your ability to solve your own problems. Recognize your personal strengths. Take pride in your abilities and what you’ve accomplished. By learning to trust yourself and your instincts, you can build even more resilience.

Resilient people acknowledge when things don’t go as planned, learn from their mistakes and then move forward. If things don’t go as planned, view it as an opportunity to take another path on the journey to a completely balanced life!

7 reasons we need friends

best friendsDo you remember your first friend? I do. Her name was Jennifer. We met on the school bus on the first day of kindergarten. We were among the first kids on the bus and usually the last ones off, so we formed a bond. We were friends all through school, but then lost touch after graduation. I haven’t seen her in over 20 years.

Friendships come and go. Sometimes they form out of convenience, like riding the bus together. You may also be friends with co-workers, but those friendships can fade when one of you moves on to a different job.

Then, you have the friendships that can last the better part of your lifetime. These are the friends who will be with you through a bad break-up, divorce, miscarriage, illness or death. They will also share your joys: a promotion, marriage or a new baby.

So, what are the benefits of having good friends?

Fight illness and depression
Friends are important to your overall health. Studies have shown that people with a good network of friends are better able to fight diseases, such as cancer. In fact, friends may have a bigger impact on your physical and emotional well-being than your family relationships. It’s also harder to become depressed when you have friends to listen to you and help you through the tough times.

Live longer
Research shows that older people who have a large circle of friends have a greater chance of living longer than those with fewer friends. Your friends will encourage you to get out and do things you might not do by yourself. They can provide emotional support, a mental challenge and keep you physically active.

Relieve stress
Have you ever called a friend when you’ve felt like you couldn’t deal with one more thing? Our friends have our backs. If you’re mad at someone, they will be mad with you. If you’ve had a bad day, they will lift your spirits. If you just need someone to listen to you unload, they will listen. One of the best stress relievers is to get what’s bothering you off your chest and have someone listen unconditionally.

Boost your confidence
When you need a boost, your friends will tell you that you look fantastic. They will tell you that you are right and your spouse or significant other is being a jerk. They will agree that you deserved that promotion. Knowing your friends are behind you can give you the confidence to face your challenges and make changes in your life.

Tell it like it is
On the other hand, your friends will let you know when you are out of line. They will call you on your bull. True friends will be honest when honesty is what you need. They may tell you that you are putting on weight. Then, they’ll give you some healthy recipes or offer to exercise with you.

Test your limits
Good friends will push you to test your limits and try new things. It may be something as simple as eating sushi or going to a Zumba class. They may talk you into skydiving or taking a road trip to Vegas. Your friends will push you out of your comfort zone and make you a more well-rounded person.

Feel loved
Our friends love us. And while you may not tell each other all the time, you know. Your friends will be there with you through the good times and the rough patches. That’s what makes them your friends.

I’m going to call my best friend now. Who will you call?